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What a ‘D-bag’

In Language on October 4, 2010 at 8:56 am

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Since I’ve already started my analysis of language, albeit the French language, I might as well jump into the English one.  A year ago or so I started thinking about the swear words we use in our every day speech, not everyone luckily because the sound of them grate upon my ears, and how they are often derisive towards females.  Now I don’t know for sure if this affects society’s view of women, as I haven’t conducted  a study, but since new words keep popping up, and serve the same affect, then they must reflect some part of society that finds it ok to be derogatory or vulgar towards females – they often refer to certain anatomical parts.  And yes, there are swear words that are related to men as well, but they aren’t the same.   

I will start this out with the ever so popular ‘Douche bag’.  Now, if I said ‘douche bag’, or ‘D-bag’ for short, what’s the first thing that pops into your head? Maybe that really hot guy who looks as though he frequents the gym and uses conditioner in his hair.  Maybe a Frat boy, or it might be that guy who led you on for weeks, made out with you and then decided his heart wasn’t in it (of course when are their hearts in it? They just feel with their…well you get the idea – and I’m joking, kind of).   Or it could be that guy who cut you off earlier in the afternoon so he could make the light…it could even be your neighbor, who plays his music too loud or your guy friends from time to time when they make unnecessary comments about your hair on a bad day or the way you eat.  This is the popular use of the term, as in someone (a male) who is a JERK – not very nice, rude, a ‘playa’, narcissistic…

Yet, the actual term douche-bag refers to a vaginal cleaning product.  Therefore, if you put the literal meaning of the word and combine it with the popular use of it, then you can get an idea of what is actually being said when you call someone a ‘d-bag’.  Not a very pretty picture to say the least, but how is it that a vaginal cleaning product has turned into the term for ‘not very nice guy’?  Why is it that the many vulgar terms that men can be referred to have to do with the female reproductive organ? I guess it’s the ultimate insult, and because it has been popularized into everyday speech we all get to continue the tradition of degrading women and sullying perceptions, not only through images but with our language too.  It’s hard enough for women to respect themselves and love their bodies when our bodies aren’t even our own.  We have been commodified and codified through popular culture.  Of course, females are not the only ones who suffer from this, but it seems harder to break out of it because it is so ingrained within our own feminine culture and way of thinking. 

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jerk (Definition of ‘Jerk’ from Urban Dictionary)

The kind of guy most girls ACTUALLY want when they say they want a Nice Guy. Jerks are selfish, manipulative bastards who see women as little more then sexual conquests to brag about to their buddies or mere objects that are there for their personal pleasure. As to ensure the post-sex breakup will be in their favor, Jerks often play the “sensative guy” early on so the girl will make most of the moves on HIM, and after he’s done with her and dumps her for some other girl just like her, he can make it look like she’s at fault for coming on too strong, and consequently she’ll take him back if he chooses to return for seconds. Typically are/were Frat Boys, Jocks, and Preps in school.
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